wow.. kudos to u for pulling through. you're a really strong person.
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This is a discussion on Sadness and girl trouble thread. [NO GIRLS ALLOWED - THE NEW MENS ROOM] within the General Off Topic+ forums, part of the QJ.net Forum Miscellaneous category; wow.. kudos to u for pulling through. you're a really strong person. =]...
wow.. kudos to u for pulling through. you're a really strong person.
Live with two disabled parents at home...my whole life. Sucks to take care of them 24/7, sucks to watch them in the hospital, sucks knowing at anytime this may/will happen to me(I love them, it just sucks to raise yourself and watch parents in constant pain.) Lots of other experiences that occur every day shake my grasp on reality. This may be my future, I will have to accept that...
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hmmm... I guess I could lay out my story for you guys.
Starting when I was 14, I had a crush on a girl at my school. For a couple years we were just good friends, hanging out a lot, going roller skating, etc. Silly kid stuff.
Then in high school, after my first Homecoming dance, we started dating. We saw each other all the time, since we were in the marching band together, which meant both being together in band class and at the football games where we did our marching routines. She and I got to know each other more than we'd known anyone before.
When I left home for college, she stayed behind, going to school about half an hour from home. I was about eight hours from home. The distance made things rough, but we stayed together throughout it. Two and a half years at one school, followed by a switch to a school that was three hours from home... an art school where I only spent half a year (because I realized I wasn't an artist... at all... lol.)
Finally I wound up living at home and going to another school close to home. By this time she had stopped going to school completely, a decision which hung in our relationship like the 800 pound gorilla in the room. She knew I wanted her to finish college, and so did her family, but for reasons she never told me, she just stopped going. She actually flunked out. She went so far as to hide her report card under her mattress so her mom would never see it. I don't know why she didn't just throw it out...
Fast forward a few months. My brother was living in Delaware and my folks and I went to visit him over a long weekend. On Sunday morning I get a call from my girlfriend's mother, telling me she had just had my baby.
I was in complete shock. I didn't think it was possible, since I thought I'd always been careful to use protection whenever we'd had sex. Nevertheless, there was now a baby girl in the picture, and I was going to have to man up and deal with parenthood.
So we flew back home. We drove to the hospital, where the staff threw a bunch of paperwork at me and told me to sign. In shock, I pretty much signed everything without bothering to read it. I stayed the night there. We talked about baby names and what, exactly, had happened.
Somehow, for nine months, she managed to hide her pregnancy from everyone, including her stepfather who is an EMT. For those of you not familiar with the term, he's one of the guys who would show up with an ambulance if you called for one. he should be able to recognize a pregnant woman if he saw one.
Then, just the night before I came home, she had given birth to the baby secretly, in the back seat of her car, without telling anyone what was happening. She cut the umbilical cord with a razor-edged box cutter she'd taken home from work that night. Somehow she managed to walk back into her house, where her mother freaked out at the sight of her with a baby in her arms.
Anyways... a couple weeks go by. We start taking parenting classes, I'm working more at my job to earn extra money to help care for the baby, and so on. I was making all the changes in my life I'd need to make to be a father.
One day my girlfriend left her phone at my house when she went home for the night. On a whim I decided to check it out. Lo and behold, dozens of calls from this guy named Steve, who she'd previously told me was a stalker who wouldn't leave her alone. Also, voice mails from him, talking about how he loves her.
One day she takes the baby out for a while, saying she's getting her license plate renewed at the Secretary of State's office and going shopping for some baby clothes. For two or three solid hours, she doesn't answer her phone when I or anyone in her family called her. I drove by the Secretary of State's office - no sign of her. I kept calling. Finally she answers the phone and says she's in the parking lot at the mall; that she'd gotten tired and took a nap. With the baby in the car, with the windows closed, with the engine off, on a hot day. The mall happens to be across the road from where Steve works.
I get a call from her mom, saying she'd found a receipt in my GF's room for a P.O. box in Steve's name. I confront my GF about this and she says she got it for him because his uncle sometimes read his mail and threw it out before he got a chance to see it.
It's about this time I decide to do a DNA test, an option which I had apparently bypassed at the hospital on one of the dozens of forms I'd signed.
More time passes, more calls from Steve. Finally I put my foot down and tell her she had to call him and tell him to stop calling her. We then got the police involved, starting to pursue a restraining order against him. That very night she calls him. I don't know what it's about, of course, because I discovered it by looking at her phone the next day. I confronted her about this and she calls him and tells him not to call anymore. She breaks into tears during the call.
Only at this time do I discover from her brother that Steve was the first person she called from the hospital after having the baby.
Needless to say, I get the DNA test results back and there's a 0% chance that I'm the baby's father. This is after spending two months of my life and untold amounts of emotional energy on this child.
Another one of those lovely forms I signed at the hospital apparently made my paternity test essentially meaningless, saying that no matter what I'd accepted paternity. So I had to get a lawyer. $2000 and several weeks later, including one day where I discovered that my girlfriend was attempting to get child support money from me, I had a 24-point case lined up against my girlfriend for intentionally deceiving me into thinking this child was mine, when she knew it wasn't.
After the nightmare (brought on mostly by my naivety and my strong desire that the baby WAS mine) finally ended, I got appendicitis, and had to spend half a week in the hospital and miss a month of work after having my appendix removed.
So yeah. Life can suck. But I've remained hopelessly optimistic since then. I've graduated with honors from college, got a good job, and lived a comfortable life. Things are looking up.
Last edited by FreePlay; 05-31-2008 at 11:30 AM.
[I fail @ life]
Yeah FreePlay I remember you sharing this awhile ago. And honestly I felt really bad. That's some really ****ty...well ****..
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Wow FreePlay, what a ****ing **** experience....if anything like that would to happen to me, I dont think I could take it....
God, old thread....
Well, new updates then...
I may lose my eyesight. My body has gotten immune to the treatment for the eyes so.... its just time.
F*** balls!Originally Posted by Tommi
[I fail @ life]
This sh*t is retarded.
It's great to hear that you were going to do the right thing in the first place. But no one can blame you for taking yourself out of there when the truth finally came out. I'm sure you're happy to know that you still have more time before you're a father, if you even want a kid of course.
wow freeplay.. girls are such *****es...
Thanks for sharing that man.
And how did you express all those sad feelings, you know, after the 'nightmare'?
Who supported you through all of this?
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Damn FreePlay, sorry to here that, thanks for sharing.
If you don't mind me asking, what is your occupation?
Sorry if it's not as well written as FreePlay's.
I have a really big thing that I have had for over the past year.
Its this one girl, she is one of the most beautiful girls I have ever seen.
My sophomore year in high school, my best friend wanted to get with her, but it never really worked out, he got mad at her because of all the rumors he heard about her, so I gave it my shot, I started talking to her and all. I liked her but never had the balls to ask her out or ask her her feelings, so I never asked, when I found out she liked me, it was too late, she already like my best friend again. I didn't know though, we all went to Spiderman 3, the day it came out, OMG I remember this so clearly. We all had a great blast, but that next week, which was one of the last of the school year, I found out that they were going out. It pissed me off so much, him knowing I liked her.
Summer past, we all hung out as a bunch of good friends, I still liked her. I knew she liked me too. A week before school started (my junior year that I just graduated from in 2008) she would call me non stop, she said she started liking me again, I was freaking out, I didn't know what to do. She ended up telling her boyfriend that she had feeling for someone else. He knew it was me. We got into a big fight, they ended up breaking up, my best friend wouldn't talk to me. She kept calling me, over and over again. I couldn't get in touch with my friend at all, txt msg, email, phone, school, anything.
She asked me out, and we went to see the remake of "Halloween". Best horror movie I had seen at the time. It was a good night. Homecoming passed, we had so much fun together, then the feeling started coming back for my best friend, who wouldn't talk to me at all because his girl told him she liked me, WTF!!! They got back together, I told him I was very sorry, I really had nothing to do with anything leading up to her telling him she liked me. I couldn't control someones emotions and wants, needs. 3 Months pass, his mom gets into a fight, leaves state to go live with his other parents, comes back during Christmas. During the whole time that he left, his girl friend was so sad and depressed, but I made her fell better, like I always did, we never made out, held hands or nothing, just friends, I was helping her. After Christmas, we had like 6 months of school left, me and her hung out ever now and then, as only friends, I told her I could never hurt my friend like that again. (PS: They are still going out, on and off, he's cheated on her.) Schools out on June 5, she went on vacation came back like June 10, I called her on June 15, June 16 we got together and saw "The Happening". We loved to watch horror movies together and still do. The weired thing is, I know she likes me... still. I know it. She just remembers the fact that I told her I could never hurt my friend again. Me and her have so much more in common then my best friend and her did. We like the exact same things.
Guys, I don't know what to do, but I can't get in touch with this dude at all.
Every time I am around her, I get this sensational feeling.
I don't want to tell her I like her, because guys have already tried getting with her since her boyfriend has left, and she doesn't talk to them anymore. She doesn't want anyone but her boyfriend. But I KNOW SHE LIKES ME. WTF DO I DO?
Sorry, but I was bored, and wanted to express my self.
Last edited by Sullivan; 06-17-2008 at 10:14 AM.
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Bros before Hoes.
That's all i'm saying.
Here goes. I didn't have a very good childhood, but my life has turned for the better since then. I have been a ward of the state since I was 3. I have been in and out of over 30 foster homes since then and I have lived in probably every part of New Jersey there is. But the reason I am or was in that situation is because my parents were downright awful at parenting. My father left my family when I was about 2. My mom was an alcoholic who would come home almost every night from a nightclub wasted with a different guy. When I was six, I was placed in a home and the foster parents son would beat the **** out of me, and they would lock me outside during the day. I managed to get out of there when my grandma noticed that something was wrong, and she gave the state hell for placing me with those people. While in placement, when I was 11 or so, my mother was incarcerated for aggravated assault and battery with a deadly weapon. My father tried to better himself by going to rehab in Washington State, almost 3000 miles away. Anyway to the good part. I now live with my loving aunt and uncle in Pennsylvania. My dad has been clean for 5 years now, and I actually do enjoy talking to him. He still feels so guilty for what he did. My mother is out of maximum security prison and now lives with her sister (my other aunt), and she now has a job. All is well. Another not so nice story. My brother just got a court martial by the Marines. Wonderful.
Reading this thread makes me appreciate all the stuff that happens to people that I've managed to avoid thus far.
All these experiences of people I have never met and the only thing I know about them is that they play games and come to QJ have put my life into perspective (in a fashion).
Not to make fun of any of the horrible experiences stated here, but this has made my life feel a hell of a lot better.
Wow. reading this thread makes me think what do people go through.
i started to like this girl in the beginning of my freshman year, she was fun, good sense of humor, not like most other girls. As thanksgiving passed, we would text each other alot before and everything but i finally got the balls to ask her out. She said yes but the next day she called and broke up with me because of stuff to be said later. As winter passed we still were friends, we had a few classes and we would help each other with homework. as Spring Break came she actually asked me out, I couldnt believe it, dream come true. But then after a few weeks, I realized how much of a b*tch she was, not to be mean, she even admits it herself. but I didnt want to let go because of how much she meant to me.
But as time went on, she would begin to talk about breaking up, and how she thinks i dont care about her, and that i think that shes not important to me, and that i dont like her as much as she likes me. Which are all untrue, but Im a really shy person so I dont really express my feelings about me or others often. but as time went on, I still liked her and everything and then after dating for about a month and a half. she said she loved me, I thought i was ready but i couldnt give a straight answer, I said i didnt know back, the next day I said i did after sleeping on it. And she didnt believe me, and she said that i said that i didnt.
But all the good overtook the bad, we still got along great when we would go on dates. but when Im not with her, she just acts like a total b*tch and talks about how i shouldnt be with her, I felt like she was implying to me that she wanted to break up, when school ended it happened again and i just said enough and broke up with her. two days before our next date, she tried to tell me to stop and not to break up with her, cuz i meant so much to her, but i couldnt stop myself. I felt like it was the thing to do. so while shes sobbing on the phone hysterically im just explaining to her about this. But I felt like the break up was too rough, we didnt really get to see each other one last time so I called her back, said I was sorry, and i basically tried to give it one last go.
Now that was a week and a half ago, and im going mad, just now she just told me about how one of her good friends, whos a guy, how they would have sex with each other since they were 10. And I was shocked and hurt, especially cuz the last time it happened was only 2 days before she asked me out. She claims it wont happen again, but shes always nervous that it will. which was why she broke up with me before. And now that she told me this, shes mad at me because she thinks i dont care about it because this haunts her. Even though shes mentioned the guy, and she always talk about him.
I want to break up with her badly, but i want her to break up with me. Im trying to be nice and giving hints, but shes being a b*tch to me but also telling me how much i mean to her. I dont know what to do. I know were gonna break up at some point, but I dont want it to be a bad break up.
any ideas? shes a really nice person underneath it all, shes just in a bad mood when she doesnt see me alot.
Holy ****. dude that sucks. mabey u should beat the **** of that friend of hers
I'm kinda getting pissed off with my girlfriend.
She keeps putting her mates ahead of me...
Like I'm going on holidays and so is she so I won't see her for about a month and tomorrow we were going to spend some time together and then she was going to go to a party.
Her mates complained that she was coming late so she just knocked an hour off our time together (meaning we only get a couple) and I just think it's a bit rich since she gets a whole week there without me with her friends.
And this sort of **** happens all the time, and to make matters worse all her friends are guys, one of them her ex and the other guy someone who loves her and another who keeps trying to make out with her.
I feel a bit ****ing pissed off.
I can express my feelings of my GF here?
Well here goes...
I have been having a brilliant relationship for the past 3 months, but a few weeks ago I was left alone with her phone in the room, and well she goes through my phone and I have nothing to hide, so I thought I'd do the same.
OK, so upon looking through random text messages, I see a few from about 3 different guys with messages which disturbed me, then when I ask her about it, she has a hissy fit, she's always on MSN talking to these 2 guys in particular and she keeps making arrangements to go round one of there houses or to meet them at the local park, she tells me she's going there and always says "...is that a problem?" and I just don't bother answering correctly.
Now the worst was when I found her MSN conversations with about 3 boys, and a few lines which caught my attention and really hurt me inside... "I wouldn't tell him anything anyway" and just the other day she said if I had to tell you something then I'll tell you, I looked at her messages on Bebo and she arranged to meet up with this guy at the park with her friend, she tells me she's going to the park, but doesn't tell me anything else.
I say "well who are you meeting down there then?" and she says her mates, which I know for a fact is a lie because I saw what she had arranged in a message, I told her she doesn't have to cover up who she is seeing... and she just shouted down the phone "You know what... b*llocks to this" and put the phone down, then called her back asking what the point of that was, and she just said her mate is going to get her lip pierced... so I just thought ohh **** it and said yep OK fine, put the phone down, if she has done ANYTHING, then I'll find out anyway, and she'll hear it from me!
May not be the best story but I just feel so good now I have shared it with others.
Thanks for listening =)
How long has it said No Girls Allowed?
I don't know.
But i'm in a happy relationship with the most perfect girl for me =D
Mike: Just tell her what you want, It always works.
I know, taking realtionship advice form a 15 year old -_-
Dude what the hell, If there was one word to describe you then it would not be accommodating.
I've been dating my girl for almost 2 years, and its been incredible the entire time. No issues about her wanting other guys or anything like that. I seriously think she's the one. We've talked about getting our own house and getting married and all that, it feels pretty good.
If she met up with her friends who were boys at a park, I'd ****ing flip haha.